RyanSxi
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Following on from the "Have you ever been in love" thread and things ive seen in my time. Why is it that people these days have to get engaged and married so quickly?
Seems alot end up seperating after a few years anyway, Ive always been of the opinion that you should wait untill your with someone you do love and want to spend your life with.
Example of what I mean is my gf's friend has just got engaged to her bf. They have been together about 6 months! I mean, there still in the "honeymoon" period, ofcourse they still feel like they love each other.
Me and the missus have been together 3 and a half years now and I don't feel ready for any of the above.
So whats it all about? 
(apologies for lost first post  )
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MJFF88
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Quite simply, in my opinion, when the going gets tough it buys some time. Completely the wrong way round to what it should be.
Edit: And like you mentioned, honeymoon period 
A mate of mine has just started seeing an underage girl (He's 18, shes 15) and they're engaged after 4 months 
[Edited on 11-09-2008 by MJFF88]
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MatthewR
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Money Grabbing sluts!!!! thats why
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Robbo
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Me and my ex got engaged after 2 and a half years and then split up 4 years later
At my age now I would probably ask someone after a year/eighteen months or so tbh if it felt right
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by MatthewR
Money Grabbing sluts!!!! thats why
But in the couple of cases im thinking about, the lad has proposed to his girlfriend. Therefore how can it be her fault?
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Robbo
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Originally posted by MatthewR
Money Grabbing sluts!!!! thats why
pwned
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Dione J
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Maybe the women are up the duff & wanting to get the engagement and wedding done in time
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willay
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Stupid people get engaged that quick, they are normally very young too. I wouldnt think about marriage or getting engaged with a girl until like, 4 or 5 years have passed. If I didnt feel like doing it after 5 years of being together then you're not going to feel it in 10 imo
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by Robbo
Me and my ex got engaged after 2 and a half years and then split up 4 years later
At my age now I would probably ask someone after a year/eighteen months or so tbh if it felt right
That makes no sense though surely? Seeing that the last girlfriend seemed like the only yet lasted 4 years. Surely that would make you wait long with the next one before popping the question?
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MJFF88
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quote:
Originally posted by RyanSxi
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Originally posted by MatthewR
Money Grabbing sluts!!!! thats why
But in the couple of cases im thinking about, the lad has proposed to his girlfriend. Therefore how can it be her fault?
Little hints to make the male think its the right time for asking I guess
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I think it works both ways its not always the women that are money grabbers 
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willay
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quote:
Originally posted by Dione J
Maybe the women are up the duff & wanting to get the engagement and wedding done in time
ahhh thats an exception, if i got a girl pregnant and i could see myself spending the rest of my dayz with her then I'd get a shotgun wedding sorted asap 
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Phi
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If i had a house and had the moneyi reckon id be married, jsut becasue you would feel settled,
i always said i want to be married before im 30.. maybe
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Robbo
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quote:
Originally posted by RyanSxi
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Originally posted by Robbo
Me and my ex got engaged after 2 and a half years and then split up 4 years later
At my age now I would probably ask someone after a year/eighteen months or so tbh if it felt right
That makes no sense though surely? Seeing that the last girlfriend seemed like the only yet lasted 4 years. Surely that would make you wait long with the next one before popping the question?
Im old :/ and id like to be married before im 30 tbh
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Phi
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OH ROBBO
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My mates ex who he split up with last November has just got married last week to her new boyfriend!! She's only 20!
I've been with my gf for 3.5 years, and we are not even thinking about getting married! We're fine how we are and would rather spend any money that we would on a wedding on holidays and other things!
We're still sorting our careers and want to get a bigger house also. I don't see myself getting married till I'm in my 30s to be honest.
Both are parents are divorced so we don't really rate marriage that highly tbh!
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
Stupid people get engaged that quick, they are normally very young too. I wouldnt think about marriage or getting engaged with a girl until like, 4 or 5 years have passed. If I didnt feel like doing it after 5 years of being together then you're not going to feel it in 10 imo
This is how I see it. Im only 21 so why rush lol. If after say 5 years we are still together and in love then it makes sense...
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Hammer
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Originally posted by Robbo
Im old :/ and id like to be married before im 30 tbh
There's your answer Ryan.
People feel pressured into it the older they get not only by themselves but other people.
Me personally i'm contemplating kidding on i'm a poof so i can live the single high life until i'm an old cunt.
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Dione J
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
Stupid people get engaged that quick, they are normally very young too. I wouldnt think about marriage or getting engaged with a girl until like, 4 or 5 years have passed. If I didnt feel like doing it after 5 years of being together then you're not going to feel it in 10 imo
Agreed
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by Hammer
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Originally posted by Robbo
Im old :/ and id like to be married before im 30 tbh
There's your answer Ryan.
People feel pressured into it the older they get not only by themselves but other people.
Me personally i'm contemplating kidding on i'm a poof so i can live the single high life until i'm an old cunt.
Does seem to be pressure from what im seeing.
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I've been with my GF 7 years next month and I've not thought of even getting married!
I'm 22 thats far to young IMO to be getting married!
Plus she's just finished Uni, sorting our careers, enjoying life, cars, before getting houses etc.
April '06' Corsasport Feature Car  | Aug '08' Total Vauxhall Feature Car | Spring '09' Fast Car Feature Car
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Brett
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I've been with my g/f 5yrs and have a child and still not engaged. Not happenin.
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Robbo
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Originally posted by Corsa_phi
OH ROBBO
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willay
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Originally posted by loafofbrett
I've been with my g/f 5yrs and have a child and still not engaged. Not happenin.
not liek marriage will be any more commitment then a kid eh brett 
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
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Originally posted by loafofbrett
I've been with my g/f 5yrs and have a child and still not engaged. Not happenin.
not liek marriage will be any more commitment then a kid eh brett
Not really tbh.
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