foxyk8t
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Right got a question for you all?
Been out on a date recently who has a reputation for being a bit of a ladies man?
I'm not one to judge straight off so thought i will give him the benefit of doubt (spelling). To be fair i had a really good time but..........
My question is, is a player always a player, when do they calm down, can they ever be trusted or does it just take that one special person to stop thinking with their you know what?  
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Jay
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He will always be one
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Neo
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Best thing to do, just hold out for 3 months, if he is still willing to go on a date and not have sex for 3 months, then he must like you
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Robbo
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 @ Neo
Not sure about 3 months but maybe something along those lines is a good idea... that said I'm used to getting it fairly early on and after a few weeks would assume that the other person doesn't really like me that much and probably ot be interested :/
Is this why you aren't sure Katie?
PS I don't think once a player always a player, some poeple do want to settle down eventually
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Ellis
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You'll have to tame the beast, seen it done before - but rarely!
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Jay
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To be honest it sounds like its just one date upto now? Just give the lad a chance, you may not even like him as much as you think you might in the end.
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Conway563
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I have a reputation as a player for some reason. I settled down and got married, didn't work out but not many people thought I'd do it
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foxyk8t
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Well we met up on sunday for a coffee after alot of texting and chatting on the fone, we had a random late nite beach walk on monday with a cup of tea then went out for a drink officially last nite, im not sure if he's telling me stuff girls want to hear but i do like him!! and we had the most amazing kisses last nite 
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by foxyk8t
Well we met up on sunday for a coffee after alot of texting and chatting on the fone, we had a random late nite beach walk on monday with a cup of tea then went out for a drink officially last nite, im not sure if he's telling me stuff girls want to hear but i do like him!! and we had the most amazing kisses last nite
Practice makes perfect and all that 
Nah im just playing. Some lads do end up settling down, but, I'd be careful if I was you that you don't end up getting hurt.
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Tommy L
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I dont get why people are players 
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foxyk8t
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He did kind of say he had played the field abit over the last year or so generally as he got hurt himself, wasnt ready for another relationship and hadnt met the rite girl, he told me last nite tho i have caught him at a good time and apparently there is something about me? i dunno im soooooo confused on the whole scenario
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Neo
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quote:
Originally posted by Robbo
@ Neo
Not sure about 3 months but maybe something along those lines is a good idea... that said I'm used to getting it fairly early on and after a few weeks would assume that the other person doesn't really like me that much and probably ot be interested :/
Is this why you aren't sure Katie?
PS I don't think once a player always a player, some poeple do want to settle down eventually
Ok 3 months is a slight exageration....but im sure you get what i mean. 90% of people i know, if they werent into someone a lot, wouldnt stick about for anywhere near that long !
[Edited on 20-08-2008 by Neo]
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mwg
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I always think everyone is worth a chance, if you dont try then you'll never know
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Robbo
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quote:
Originally posted by foxyk8t
He did kind of say he had played the field abit over the last year or so generally as he got hurt himself, wasnt ready for another relationship and hadnt met the rite girl, he told me last nite tho i have caught him at a good time and apparently there is something about me? i dunno im soooooo confused on the whole scenario
Then maybe our suggestion is a plan, take things slowly, get to know him and don't just give him what you think he wants too easy... but at the same tiem maybe tell him how you feel?
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foxyk8t
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Oh i can hold out no worries there haha, suppose i will see how interested he is and how long he will stick around 
Second quetion then if im playing it cool is it acceptable for him to get his oats elsewhere in the meantime if thats what he chooses to do?
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Robbo
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If he does then that surely shows he isnt that interested?
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mwg
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you what?!
if I was just starting to see a lass official or not I wouldn't be hanging round if I found they getting it elsewhere in the meantime
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RyanSxi
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quote:
Originally posted by foxyk8t
Oh i can hold out no worries there haha, suppose i will see how interested he is and how long he will stick around
Second quetion then if im playing it cool is it acceptable for him to get his oats elsewhere in the meantime if thats what he chooses to do?
If he's getting it somewhere else then he obviously isn't bothered about having a relationship etc with you.
That's how I see it anyway.
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Simon
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quote:
Originally posted by foxyk8t
Oh i can hold out no worries there haha, suppose i will see how interested he is and how long he will stick around
Second quetion then if im playing it cool is it acceptable for him to get his oats elsewhere in the meantime if thats what he chooses to do?
Sounds like he'd be 'playing' you well if you allowed that
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foxyk8t
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Exactly, tricky situation i dont want to be intenso crazy chick wanting to know his every move, i just want to be able to trust him 
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James
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Once a player always a player.
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Scotty C
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Once a player always a player
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Scotty C
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James 
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toni88
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I dont think players ever change, they might settle down a bit but once they find someone else to fool about with theres no stopping em lol!
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Mobby
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they will fuck around!!! and will always be texting
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