Lupogti
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After 2years i decided to call it a day last weekend after she seemed to pick arguements and be aggrivated by me all the time. Trouble is, i still love her and its doin my head in because i cant move on.
Never been in this position before and so dont know how to deal with it, keep telling myself to be a man and forget about her but it isnt working. Anyone been in this situation before and can say how long it takes to get over someone
Its not particularly the fact that i still wana b with her because i know it wasnt working but seeing her with someone else would kill me.
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taylorboosh
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it is very hard but it will be just as hard for her, why not ask her to work on it with you mate?
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Fro
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Been there many a time best to just stick out to be honest mate, keep yourself busy with your mates etc
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willay
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You won't move on in a week.
Everyone takes their own amount of time to get over someone.
You're only human, you are allowed to be upset about it, regardless if you are male or female.
Surround yourself with friends, get a new hobby, keep yourself busy, dont leave reminders of her about. Break out of any routine you may have thats assioated with her.
Have a big fat cry.
Last of all, make sure you are doing the right thing, you may of quit too quickly.
[Edited on 13-05-2007 by willay]
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As is most often the case it's hard at first but it only gets easier  .
I split with my last girlfriend and was fairly happy as it was what I wanted, though as soon as I heard she was seeing someone else that's when it really hit me and put me on a major low... but you get used to it. Even though it hurt to see her with someone else I kept in contact with her and we're now good friends, I still see her quite often and it doesn't bother me about her seeing other men now 
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Lupogti
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Its good to know that time helps, the worst bit is defo sitting around like today with nothing to do but think about the past. Wer meeting up tomorow to talk things through just incase i did finish things too soon.
I think we just had too much too soon,we wer living together, in eachothers pockets, and i lost my licence through a driving ban which has put pressure on both of us. cant decide whether to give it another go living seperately agian.
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willay
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weigh up the pros and cons, did you really have a good thing?
thats the kind of stuff I'd be doing/thinking about.
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Little Vik
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Alot of what builds a relationship is habit, e.g you come in from work you text or call them. Your bored so you call them, you watch certain tv programmes with them, see certain friends with them. Breaking those habits will help ease things, but unfortunately you need time to get your head together and find yourself as you rather then as a couple.
Take some time out to see if you miss each other or miss the habits.
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quote:
Originally posted by Little Vik
Alot of what builds a relationship is habit, e.g you come in from work you text or call them. Your bored so you call them, you watch certain tv programmes with them, see certain friends with them. Breaking those habits will help ease things, but unfortunately you need time to get your head together and find yourself as you rather then as a couple.
Take some time out to see if you miss each other or miss the habits.
Nail -> Head
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Kathryn W
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It'll take time to get over her, you have just spent the last two years of your life with her.
Best thing to do to be honest is to keep busy! Do things with your mates go out etc.. do things were you won't be thinking of her, as well as meeting new people along the way!
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I am in the same situation as you are mate it wasnt working but u always think it could work if a few changes were made but it aint worth it, still hurts like hell tho i feel ur pain, my ex has already had a bf n split but i cant seem to move on either, no matter how hard i try
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Cosmo
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
weigh up the pros and cons, did you really have a good thing?
totally agree.
Do this and then maybe you might both think its worth trying when not in each others pockets 24/7...Ive been with my gf 5 1/2yrs but I know if we lived together during the first 3 or so then we would of killed each other!
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
make sure you are doing the right thing, you may of quit too quickly.
[Edited on 13-05-2007 by willay]
defo agree with this one
been there before
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quote:
Originally posted by Fonz
quote:
Originally posted by willay
make sure you are doing the right thing, you may of quit too quickly.
[Edited on 13-05-2007 by willay]
defo agree with this one
been there before
i agree-i finished my mrs.big mistake
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Lupogti
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Had a long think and i miss her not the things we used to do, i was stupid to end it on the spur of the moment, i hope she takes me back when we speak tomorow.
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Cosmo
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quote:
Originally posted by Lupogti
Had a long think and i miss her not the things we used to do, i was stupid to end it on the spur of the moment, i hope she takes me back when we speak tomorow.
I wouldnt go running back like that, just say you've had time to think and feel you both rushed it and ask her what she thinks before you get on your knees and beg!
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Its only been a week since you split up and you were together for 2 years, of course your gonna be missing her like mad. You've not given yourself enough time to sort yourself out yet
Before you jump back in with two feet, you need remind yourself why you finished it in the 1st place then decide if its worth another go 
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Cosmo
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Jade when you going to split with Colin and move down to be with me?
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Lupogti
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Good points, ill go about in a reserved way cosmo, and try to mate the decision mutual(sp). I feel that the only changes now from when we wer fine are that we were living together, my driving ban, her uni exams=stressed. Unfortunately the only thing i can change is the living together, i can only support her with the others.
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Originally posted by Cosmo
Jade when you going to split with Colin and move down to be with me?
If he ever gets bored with me and calls it a day, I'll keep you in mind 
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Lupogti I'm in the EXACT same situation mate. Was going with my girlfriend for two years, but that ended a couple of days ago. I know how you feel, it hurts like hell, but as time passes you'll get over her mate
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Lupogti
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Chicks mate, they aint worth the hassle
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Similar situation atm for me, split up with my gf after 11 months and im finding it a lil hard to take, but ill get there, just i have my exams to concentrate on which makes it a bit harder really because all i have on my hands is alone time to revise and so my mind drifts away from revising
Ill just have to get over it eventually though
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