corsa_chelle
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Is it possible to be mates with some after a relationship?
I was with my ex for about 4 years, he was a complete prat and i eventually got rid of him but he got intouch yesterday just wanting to be 'friends' and how he's had a really hard time and just got out of prison (this proves he's a prat) i don't have any feelings for him but i feel i should be there for him as a friend? what do you think?
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Tiger
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Yeah its completely possible, im great friends with my ex.
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Tom
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It can work, I am friends with an ex who is now going out with a mate. It only works if there's totally no feelings and you like them (why do you wana be mates with him if he was a gibbon ( ) anyway?
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Greasemonkey
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make sure he understands that your friendship will no way lead to anything more than just friends. I just had this myself
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corsa_chelle
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i just feel i shoudl be there to help him now as we have the history together i also feel partly to blame for him getting in trouble with police as he you'd to say he only sorted himself out because of me and as soon as i broke up with him he went back to it all
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PhilC
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I don't know many people who've made it work. Good luck anyway!
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kz
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quote: Originally posted by PhilC
I don't know many people who've made it work. Good luck anyway!
i certainly never have! carried on talking to one ex for about six months actually but everytime i saw her out shed wind me up by ignoring me but talkin to my mates. couldnt take anymore so deleted her off msn. bye bye
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Greasemonkey
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He carnt blame his bad behaviour on you splitting up, he is just being unfair and making you feel guilty, if he was Normal he would not get locked up at all
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jaffa
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Friends with my ex's bar one
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Tom
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Yeah he can't blame you you shouldn't let him 
I am mates with a most ex's actually and most definately not with one most fierry relationship ever, volatile even 
Pretty glad she moved away from my area
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LAD VXL
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I've always tried to stay friends with my ex's but they soon get funny when you meet someone else....men
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Dean_W
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quote: Originally posted by LAD VXL
I've always tried to stay friends with my ex's but they soon get funny when you meet someone else....Women
Same here.
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Ojc
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Yes, although my ex is a complete tit now
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Liam
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quote: Originally posted by Tiger
Yeah its completely possible, im great friends with my ex.
Same here, we talk all the time 
[Edited on 16-10-2006 by Liam]
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RichR
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My ex and I tried to be friends - we'd been together for 5 years and were very good mates for several years before that.
however after about 4/5 months when I started seeing other people; she decided to get quite explicit with detail about her sordid liasons while she was with me and immediately after.
This didn't bother me too much as was seeing someone else by then - however she didn't like it when I told her some home truths regarding her treatment of people - especially how she drives her mum to drink! that was kinda that - we havnt spoken in over two years and I saw ehr the other week for the first time walking through our local town; she'd put on about 4/5 stone; got really spotty and greasy and completely ignored me as I walked past with my new missus
so in my case no you cant be friends with ex's
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Jules S
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It's very possible to remain friends with an ex.
However, IMHO you don't want to remain friends with this particular ex
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Robin
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I tried every time , it failed.
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--Dave--
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quote: Originally posted by corsa_chelle
Is it possible to be mates with some after a relationship?
I was with my ex for about 4 years, he was a complete prat and i eventually got rid of him but he got intouch yesterday just wanting to be 'friends' and how he's had a really hard time and just got out of prison (this proves he's a prat) i don't have any feelings for him but i feel i should be there for him as a friend? what do you think?
I suspect he actually got rid of you because you are of MOOSEPIG
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corsa_chelle
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dave this is a serious question
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MikeD
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I am friends with many of my Ex's it does work, but its not instant ive spent a year not speaking to someone then after that been very good friends.
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--Dave--
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i'm joking Chelle 
imo it never works out. There's just too much history there you have to deal with and you're constantly reminded each time you look at them.
Best to walk away in my experience
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dna23
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I think you shouldn't ask corsasport.co.uk - you know the guy and considering it is entirely dependant on what he's like make your own judgement based on that, not what a group of people behind their monitors say.
[Edited on 16-10-2006 by dna23]
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Ally
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PRISON
Hello... ding ding ding ding
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bubble
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me n my ex just sorta started speakiin
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Robin
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I wish I was friends with my ex 
but then, she wasn't fresh out of prison
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