Blue
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After how many years together with a girlfriend or boyfriend would you expect marriage to be on the cards?
Im sick of getting hints dropped from birds parents 
I have issues with marriage
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MatthewR
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10 years
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sukhwant
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4 years. gettin married this year
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Colin
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Just depends when you feel its right, tell her parents to back off & you'll get married when it suits you not them
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Sam
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What's the point in getting married?
You'll only get bored after a while and have affairs then eventually get a divorce!
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3CorsaMeal
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my friend was with her bloke for 4-5yrs, so got married, then split up 3months after, i think novelty wears off quickly and ur expecting something to be different which it isn't
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welshdude
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I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years now. Marriage scares me and I'd want to at least live with her first!
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Ally
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anytime really, however we would have to be living together, with a nice house and good jobs, so could be a year - 5 years
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CCA
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I dont think its the time that you've been with them that determines when/if you should get married its about when it feels right for both of you
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3CorsaMeal
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exactly CCA
marriage these days is a decision people base on situations and their status.
where is the love?
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Blue
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quote: Originally posted by welshdude
I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years now. Marriage scares me and I'd want to at least live with her first!
Precisely how I feel. I've just bought a house with her - thats a big enough step. If I can live in the same house as her then it should be okay.
Been with her for 5 years 
Marriage is an unneccesary cost and commitment.
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bradfincham
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my brother and his faince get maaried in september, shes now 26 he met her when they were 16! 9 years now!
They have both lived the lives got careers, lived togethor for 4 years so thats the same kinda thing i want to do!
Get to know someone inside out before marriage
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Sam
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quote: Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
where is the love?
It doesn't exist.
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Dom
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tbh, i feel that marriage isn't as big as it once was - the only thing it offers is security for the women, ie: she gets your cash etc if you split up 
I would maybe offer engagement - it still offers her a ring she can flash around, and then see how it goes.
Like everyone else says, no need to rush, you should do it in your own time...like you say mate, you've just got a house, which is plenty big enough of a step
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Ally
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quote: Originally posted by Sam
quote: Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
where is the love?
It doesn't exist.
In your pants it does
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TNM
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i was with my ex for almost two years and i would have said after she had finished uni would have been a good time to get married.
Current missus well erm . . difficult situation
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Dom
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quote: Originally posted by bradfincham
my brother and his faince get maaried in september, shes now 26 he met her when they were 16! 9 years now!
They have both lived the lives got careers, lived togethor for 4 years so thats the same kinda thing i want to do!
Get to know someone inside out before marriage
aye, similar to my bro and his missus - were going out since he was 17, got engaged 2000, married last year - hes now 28
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CCA
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Marriage isnt always something that everyone wants to do, plenty of couples go through life living together and have kids but just dont marry as they dont see a piece of paper will change anything
Some couples are together for years and then just drift apart or dont marry till they are in their 40s
If its not right for you at the time then dont get forced into it
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3CorsaMeal
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quote: Originally posted by TNM
Current missus well erm . . difficult situation
is she half-male?
what are the laws about that?
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TNM
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quote: Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
quote: Originally posted by TNM
Current missus well erm . . difficult situation
is she half-male?
what are the laws about that?
ner nothing like that.
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Blue
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quote: Originally posted by Dom
I would maybe offer engagement - it still offers her a ring she can flash around, and then see how it goes.
My budget just about stretches to an Elizabeth Duke sovereign at the minute.
She's not too arsed about tying the knot yet which is the good thing 
[Edited on 20-05-2005 by Blue]
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Mark Petty
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My ex's parents kept pressurising me, eventually I made the mum cry I told her to fcuk off and that it pisses me off how they interfere 
That relationship went down hill from there  
[Edited on 20-05-2005 by Mark Petty]
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Ally
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I wish they would ban divorces, only for extreeme cases.
years ago it was too costly to get divorced, nowadays people get divorced all the time.
If divorce was made harder then more people would consider working on martial issues instead of just getting divorced
Getting married is a mahoosive commitment and means a hell of alot of work, you have to be 100% before you walk down the isle
god i dont half go on
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Ally
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and abit off topic as well
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Penna
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I would say depends on your age and that aswell, Cause im 18 bin wth my gf a year and even if im with her 4 more years i aint gonna be marrying her, I wanna live my life abit I will probs be looking to get married wen im like 30 lol, if not later
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