GREG 1
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Right having an argument with my gf about a few things and its resulting in us basically close to breaking up.
She is good friends at the moment with her ex ex bf from school, talk on phone, text, see in club etc.
Anyway she is going on lunch with him on Saturday / shopping and i think its out of order on me yet she thinks its fine as they are mates and i have to trust her..
Please help 
[Edited on 30-03-2005 by GREG 1]
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Drew
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didnt u post other day saying u and her had finished???
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GREG 1
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quote:
Originally posted by Drew
didnt u post other day saying u and her had finished???
Yep over this and her wanting to move in with her mate, have more time to her self and seeing this guy for lunch etc
We couldn't handle it and got back together like 3 hrs later BUT now shes arranged to meet him on sat its kicked off again.
She is just on the phone to her mate and going to call me back but i don't think its going to be good !
Do i trust her with him ?
She keeps mentioning a break but i think thats wrong !
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Sooty
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i read first line then didnt bother with rest, why do most people seem to use this board for relationship advice? ffs if u have to ask a bunch of strangers who dont know u, youre partner or the situation then u have a shtie relationship imo
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its hard aint it mate, but you'll find as you have done, that your girlfriend will say "we're just friends so you'll just have to trust me". At the end of the day, if its guna hurt you and cause loads of problems in your relationship then its down to the girl to either forget about going to lunch with him, cos to be honest i think thats abit much, or you to just turn a blind eye, and think of it in the way of, if she cheats on you, she cheats on you and it werent meant to be anyway.
I think its wrong for your girlfriend to put you in that position in the first place though mate, cos i bet you dont wanna stop her seeing her "mates", but you also dont wanna worry about it constantly when she is.
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Sam
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Not being funny Greg, I don't know you or your girlfriend, but from what you've written, I would just end it with her, because you two will just keep arguing etc. and this may lead her into cheating with this numpty.
It also seems to me you don't really trust her, and looks like you've just cause as well?!
[Edited on 30-03-2005 by Sam]
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GREG 1
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BROKEN UP 
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Colin
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Ask her how she would feel if you said you were going lunch/shopping with your Ex burd!
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GREG 1
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Colin ive said it so many times mate.
She just says that she wouldn't mind cos she would trust me, and it would have meant ive contacted her recently as we havent spoken in a while where as they have throughout our 3 yr relationship.
It's over now, she says if its meant to be its meant to be im actually shaking here tbh
We finished as she wants different things to me
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Sam
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Women = 
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Woollard
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ouch
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Colin
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Yeah right then off course she says that - doesnt mean that tho!!! Women can be scatty little bitches at times! Best out of it then I think - move on!!!
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GREG 1
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i hate this.
3 yrs over just like that, whole life is turned.
Better take all the pics down, our lemar tickets, our cardiff final tickets, our holiday that was booked, and everything that reminded me of her
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thunda
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she'll be back trust me, they always are. just play it kool and dont chase her as hard is it is keep away and act like your gettin on, and she'll come runnin  works for me anyway
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Woollard
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i feel for you mate, must feel proper harsh, 3 years is along time too. But at least it has happened now rather than later. seems abit suspect that she broke up with you now,when she is going to see her ex for a meal soon.
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quote:
Originally posted by thunda
she'll be back trust me, they always are. just play it kool and dont chase her as hard is it is keep away and act like your gettin on, and she'll come runnin works for me anyway
 bit narrow minded
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GREG 1
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If i had a bucket, right now it would be full of tears
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Matt H
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Greg, sorry about the break up im sure you'll get over it. Kepp your chin up & try to look at it as a positive thing 
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GREG 1
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Matt, im trying mate..
We have done alot of things in our relationship that mean lot to me and having seen her near enough everyday is a hard thing to take.
She was basically like a 2nd me..
We would both call each other in morning, e-mail all day then see each other of a night so its going to feel so strange for me.
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GREG 1
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We are going to go on a break, she needs to sort her head out as she wants to do the girlie things like holidays / living with her mates but realises thats unfair on me.....
She has been crying and telling me she wants a cuddle which is confussing aswell.
We are going to go on a break where we cant do anything to anyone else and hopefully she will realise what shes loosing (me) and will want me back
(just got off the phone to her & thats the outcome)
Problem is we will prob still e-mail which will make it a little odd as she wont miss me as much e-mailing where as if she didnt talk to me she might realise it more ??
Shes just text me and said this - nite nite suga. i love u and always will. u mean the world 2 me xxx
so confusing
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dave17
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mate ive had ALL this before, she wants the freedom of single life, but the comfort of a relationship.
in my experience they think its all good at the time, but its the little things that they miss, like the phone calls, txts emails etc. and midweek shel miss u the most. jus give her the space to realise wot shes doing and that it may not be for the best.
but DONT stay at home on ur own wondering what shes upto, get out n get pissed with ur mates, play football or whatever, jus keep busy at all times and make the most of some free time.
"Shes just text me and said this - nite nite suga. i love u and always will. u mean the world 2 me xxx"
i got a near exact txt to that when me and danni went on a break, i kno its hard, but it shows she does still care.
chin up and good luck mate, these things havea way of sorting themselfs out
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quote:
Originally posted by Sooty
i read first line then didnt bother with rest, why do most people seem to use this board for relationship advice? ffs if u have to ask a bunch of strangers who dont know u, youre partner or the situation then u have a shtie relationship imo
cos gurls fuck ya up big time!!
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Ojc
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I'm friends with my ex girlfriend from school, really good friends. Rachel deals with it.
I sense a lack of trust. If Jen is trust worthy why are you questioning it?
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i never spoken again to anyone i've shagged
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dave17
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wel farm animals dont say much do they
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