waters
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a long story..........(sorry)
about 18 years ago my cousin (female) started seeing a maltese bloke, she moved out there and they now have two kids aged 12 and 15.
because she moved out to malta, her mother and father (my uncle and aunt) went out there too. Then 5 years ago (just after I got married) my mum sold up and is now living in malta.
now the other day the maltese bloke (my cousin is seeing) says if I move out there, he will find me a full time job.......
i'm really tempted......but......
I have 3 kids aged 8,6, and 3 and a loving wife, the kids are all up for moving out to malta and we've been assured that they will get a place in school out there.
The wife thinks its a bad idea and it will be far too hot through the summer months, also we rent our house here in the uk, so if we did move abroad, we've no 'safety net' to return to.
I just don't know whether to take the huge risk or not, I don't work at the moment, the wifes wage keeps us so we would be doing a role swap, I'd be working and she wouldn't in malta.
I used to be extremely patriotic.......but this country is going down the pan!
should we take the risk?
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radicalry00
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I'd maybe have a short trip over there (say 1-2 weeks) and dedicate it to ensuring a decent job. The last thing you want to do is move out of your rented home and then go over there to find no work and no where to live.
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dannymccann
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Yea either one of you will need to pretty much guarantee a job (unless your sister has 3/4 bedrooms and a bathroom going spare???)
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waters
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we've just come back about 3 weeks ago and the job is ok (hotel maintenance) and the wage will keep us.
the problem is that my wife thinks she won't see her family again (they could come over and stay with us or we could come to the uk and stay with them) but she's really unsure.....
If I didn't love her I'd be out there already
how can I reasure her that it will be fine?
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Tom
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You can't really, it would be a massive decision made harder by having nothing to fall back on if it went wrong 
Sounds like a nice idea but how much time would you be spending working etc, would it really make family life better or would you all be missing out.
Sorry to sound negative but good to have some perspective.
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waters
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quote:
Originally posted by dannymccann
Yea either one of you will need to pretty much guarantee a job (unless your sister has 3/4 bedrooms and a bathroom going spare???)
my mum has said we can stay with her as long as we need to (she has loads of room) but i wouldn't want to impose for too long.
anyway we are still trying to decide and once we've decided, i'll let you all know.
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waters
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Originally posted by Tom
You can't really, it would be a massive decision made harder by having nothing to fall back on if it went wrong
Sounds like a nice idea but how much time would you be spending working etc, would it really make family life better or would you all be missing out.
Sorry to sound negative but good to have some perspective.
I agree fully with you tom.....its a huge risk but i'm seriously tempted, if we didn't have kids it would be differerent.
at the moment the wife works 8am till 5 pm and the job in malta for me is 7.30am till 4pm.......maltese schools start at 7.30am till 2pm, the kids are sent home early if the weather gets too warm, so you need someone available to collect them at all times.
[Edited on 09-09-2008 by waters]
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myke
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excuse my ignorance, but do they speak English over there?
I can see your wifes concern. you have family over there already but she will just have you.
I think in years to come if you stay here you will kick yourself that you didn't take the punt when the opportunity was there.
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Pete_vxl
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think of the tan, i would say yes.
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excuse my ignorance, but do they speak English over there?
Yes.
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stubbsy05
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I'd go for it. Malta is not that far away, so you can always fly back to see family etc.
If your wife didn't like it you could always move back to the UK and easily find a place to rent.
This country is rapidly going down the pan! I dread the thought of bringing up kids in certain parts of Britain due to all the crappy knife crime and wannabe gansta kids running about.
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BTW I'm hoping to move abroad at some point in the future
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col
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id move right way
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BigSte
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The option of living abroad always seems quite good I think that after the novelty of sun wears off it might not be as good as you would have thought. IMO in the countries I've been to the general standard of living tends to be not as good.
England has many many faults but I'm not sure I'd personally leave. The main thing that would hold me back is my family being here as I see them a lot and would miss them so I can see where your wife is coming from......
Another thing, is the main language English or Maltese (sp??) - do you want your kids growing up speaking a foreign language and having English as there second language.
What's the standard of education like over there as again you would need to think of your kids futures as well as yours?
Difficult one to way up if you don't go you will never know and may have regrets later in life....but after considering everything if the only thing that is keeping you back is your wifes family then I'd probably go if they are happy for their daughter and grandkids to go abroad....are they supportive etc?
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if you cant convince your wife then stay in england.
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waters
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Originally posted by willay
if you cant convince your wife then stay in england.
its not really a case of convincing her, one minute she says 'lets go for it' and the next 'erm I'm not sure'
i just wish she'd make her mind up.....although it is a big decsion
btw, big ste, in malta schools they teach english, maltese and italian and everyone I've ever spoken to in malta speaks english.
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BigSte
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One positive reason to go is Sheff United are sponsored by the island of Malta so must be a good country!
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I went to Malta earlier this year and 1 week was enough for me 
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mattk
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Id say fuck this place off
what have you to loose? you have family out there and have a job sorted, you rent a house here so you dont have a mortgage to pay off or the hassel of selling up
Id be packed and have my flights booked If I were you
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quote:
Originally posted by waters
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Originally posted by willay
if you cant convince your wife then stay in england.
its not really a case of convincing her, one minute she says 'lets go for it' and the next 'erm I'm not sure'
Thats crap mate Its a big decision to make... I'd probably stay in the country, I actually like it here regardless of the shit service. 
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go for it no point in staying in this country if u can go somewhere thats hot you will soon get used to it
as for seeing familys my cousin moved to norway and my aunty and uncle go there regular and my cousin brings the kids over a bit aswell for a long weekend or for a week at a time so you your wife would still c her family but just not as much
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do it, if it all falls flat on its face, nobody can judge you, you had the balls to do it, yes it could fail, and you might be worse off after than you are now, or it could be the best thing you've ever done... if you dont, every miserable moment in your life will be filled with that 1 what if..
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Originally posted by andys sxi
go for it no point in staying in this country if u can go somewhere thats hot you will soon get used to it
my uncle and his mrs moved to majorca, we went to visit in July and she had a cardigan on shivering while im sitting topless sweating my arse off
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Jay
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The only good thing good about abroad is the weather and the fun of getting away from it all, as shit as the UK can be I wouldn't want to go and live abroad permantly, once ive been somewhere for a week I cant wait to get home, Wouldnt catch me moving unless it was to the states to be honest.
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