stan_the_man
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Registered: 14th Feb 07
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Since my mate died in October i havnt been up to see her grave as i was in Italy.
She was 20 when she died and really didnt like flowers etc etc (her funeral had no flowers and dance music in the funeral directors and me and 5 mates had to carry her in wearing white shirts and pink ties and jeans - was a nice funeral)
Im just wondering on what to take up with me when i go?
Card etc etc?
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K17STY
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Registered: 13th Dec 02
Location: West Lothian
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teddy? orr can you get those things that spin in the wind? in pink
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stan_the_man
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Registered: 14th Feb 07
Location: Perth, Western Australia
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Yeah i like that idea of the windmil
Shittin a brick cause its the first time il have been there since we lowered her into her final resting place 
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Kurt
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Registered: 23rd Oct 05
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first time i saw my friends grave was last year.. (she died in 2004) went with two mutual mates and took her a bunch of flowers..
i drive past every day for work aswell..
we were just kinda quiet really and just spoke about times we remembered..
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Mein Herr
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quote:
Originally posted by stan_the_man
Since my mate died in October i havnt been up to see her grave as i was in Italy.
She was 20 when she died and really didnt like flowers etc etc (her funeral had no flowers and dance music in the funeral directors and me and 5 mates had to carry her in wearing white shirts and pink ties and jeans - was a nice funeral)
Im just wondering on what to take up with me when i go?
Card etc etc?
Little help people
Its always nice to write something personal. A piece of honest prose or a touching poem generally mean a lot more than meterial things.
Sorry for your loss.
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pow
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Registered: 11th Sep 06
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A windmill would be a nice thing IMP
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Ally
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Registered: 2nd Jul 03
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lantern and candle
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mattk
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Registered: 27th Feb 06
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I agree on the windmill, especially if you could find a pink one!
I think it symbolises fun and happyness whicjh im sure is how you would remember her
i can only Imagine how awful it must be to loose a friend at our young age
[Edited on 01-02-2008 by mattk]
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ducky
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Registered: 8th Apr 02
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One of my friends died back in 1998 and every year since I take a card and a new teddy up there on the date.
The first time you go will be hard but every time I go now I think of good things we did together etc.
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16V_1600
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I'd go with the card and teddy.
Sorry for your loss
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T21SVJ
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try a key ring of some sort of where you have been, my mate takes up a key ring to his friends grave if hes been away or to a car show of some sort.
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Corsa_Joel
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Sorry for your loss mate.
Maybe write a small note ( similar to a card I guess ) and a teddy bear, that sounds like a good idea.
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little_duke
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Registered: 21st Aug 06
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my friend died in a car crash in june,i seen him at 6:30pm and asked him to come for a drink,he opted out and went to the gym with 2 others.at 8:10 (less then 2 hrs later) he was dead at the scene.the other lads died aswell,1 the next morning from brain damage.i went to see his body at the funeral directors.wasnt nice but i wanted to do it as a last goodbye.i go up his grave when i can and normally take nothing but myself,my 1st time i took a rose that was it.he came pvs with me in 2006 so i put his ticket with a message on it in his coffin.just something that reminded me of the good times
i also said a poem at his funeral which on the 1st year anniversary i am framing and sticking it at his grave.
there nothing i can really suggest unless you think of something she liked.
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stan_the_man
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Registered: 14th Feb 07
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I thought about a card or similar but with the weather lately itd just get mullered.
Going to try and find a windmill as they are quite jolly and she was a hell of a jolly person.
Fuckin nervous.
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little_duke
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Registered: 21st Aug 06
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you'l be ok,if you needed a card.how about writing it and going to a print shop getting it laminated
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Carl
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Are you from the Tamworth area? Strange question but was wondering if this was someone I knew of.
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little_duke
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yeah tamworth mate,who was you thinking of?
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stan_the_man
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Well i went up today and just took myself. Nothing else.
Puts everything into perspective when you see your mates grave stone. As soon as i saw the graveyards gate i broke down.
Still find it weird how i say 'im going to see sharron', knowing fine well that i will never see her.
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Colin
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My best mate died when I was 9, ive never been to his grave, didnt feel right at the time, I wasnt at his funeral & just never been up after. We were just kids though & it was a long time ago, probably best left that way. Another mate died about a year ago, took his own life.... I hav'nt been to his either, I dont think id like to go because theres nothing there really...there dead, id prefer to remember anyone as I do in my head, my way of dealing with stuff like this I guess 
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stan_the_man
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I can see myself going up there again to chill out when the going gets tough.
Its good for puuting things back to basics and making you appreciate what youve got, and not hurt over what you havent got.
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Jay
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Should of took one of them foil balloons with helium in, maybe next time.
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