mav
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Your right Ross, ppl think once your married thats it.
no fun
no life
no social life
There isn't a rule you know that once your married you don't go out no more you know...
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Sam
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mav - it depends who you've married! 
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mav
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aye i suppose
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vibrio
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Originally posted by Sam
mav - it depends who you've married!
your maw
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mwg
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I would like to have my own house and be living together before I even got engaged. Also be in a good enough situation to actually be able to finance a wedding, seems pointless having an engagement for any longer than 2 years, just like you are trying to put it off or something
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SXI_SAM
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Originally posted by andysri
i feel if u love someone as much as they do, then i see y not, but personally i wouldnt until i am older, and have a good income behind me, so can afford a house etc.
but u really have to be committed if ur getting married, as said it not to be taken lightly.
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Tom
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Originally posted by Matty G
I would like to have my own house and be living together before I even got engaged. Also be in a good enough situation to actually be able to finance a wedding, seems pointless having an engagement for any longer than 2 years, just like you are trying to put it off or something
Me too, long engagements r for losers imo 
I would want to be set up financially first, wouldn't like the thought of struggling along while newly married. So I need to get rid of all my debts (2 yrs) and then have some time to sort my life out/have soem more fun then think of settling down about 27/28
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Jules
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Originally posted by richardworrall
getting married is crap, always manages to spoil a perfectly good relationship and makes splitting up even more difficult financially and legally.
So so true, me and my (soon to be ex) wife would of been together 12 years this xmas day, we got married in April 2004 and we've now split up, I think if we hadn't of got married we'd still be together, we both thought it was the right thing to do and neither of us regret it but I think it just triggered something inside her which made her realise that she's now stuck in a rut for life - and she didn't want that, so a she made the hearbreaking decision (for both of us) to say she wanted out and once that happens you can never go back to being just boyfriend/girlfriend again.
So Foxy (or anyone else) if you're going to do it then firstly congratulations, but secondly and most importantly be 100% sure that it's what you want as the future for the rest of your life and also your potenital husband - if there is any doubt what-so-ever from you or him, no matter how small, then you shouldn't get married but just stay together and re-evaluate the situation further down the line.
Jules
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Jambo
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I know lots of people who are married and have been happily for years, including my parent and my girlfriends parents.
if you think of it negatively its only going to breed more negativity.
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mwg
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Originally posted by Jambo
I know lots of people who are married and have been happily for years, including my parent and my girlfriends parents.
if you think of it negatively its only going to breed more negativity.
my parents are divorced
This is partly why I wont rush into anything, will only do it if it feels right 
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Carl
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i'm not interested in getting married. I'm not religious and the only thing that would make a difference is both having the same name. I'd prefer 10 grand to go to setting up a home and bringing up a family rather than a big party. Maybe my view point will change but at the moment i can't see how a piece of paper saying your married can make you any happier! and has people have said, it makes it harder to get away if anything does go wrong, and you never know what is around the corner. As a close friend has just found out after the love of his life cheated on him.
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stuartmitchell
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quote:
Originally posted by Tom
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Originally posted by Matty G
I would like to have my own house and be living together before I even got engaged. Also be in a good enough situation to actually be able to finance a wedding, seems pointless having an engagement for any longer than 2 years, just like you are trying to put it off or something
Me too, long engagements r for losers imo
I would want to be set up financially first, wouldn't like the thought of struggling along while newly married. So I need to get rid of all my debts (2 yrs) and then have some time to sort my life out/have soem more fun then think of settling down about 27/28
Thats my game plan too  See a bit of the world and work without any commitments!!!
Foxy we might have to push this wedding back to 2014 
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Katie
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I would get married now if i could. Been with y bf 3 years and am really happy. I want a career, but having a nice family is more important to me.
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Carr
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Originally posted by Tom
I'd have to find someone who wanted to first
Oh oh. Pick me, pick me
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Richie
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Originally posted by mav
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Originally posted by Ally
Spoken about but agreed we are both way too young, i've just bought a house which will be my main focus for next year
Want a career and good social life first, then get hitched if i find the right guy, if not its no bother
can you not have a career if you are married???  and social life????
you mean you still want to shag about?
want to move into my house, get into my career, then plan the wedding????
Im 19, house and career first. When i get married i will have kids straight away (well ... 9 months later ) ... then my career will take a back bench and my kids will come first.
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Richie
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Registered: 3rd Dec 02
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quote:
Originally posted by Matty G
I would like to have my own house and be living together before I even got engaged. Also be in a good enough situation to actually be able to finance a wedding, seems pointless having an engagement for any longer than 2 years, just like you are trying to put it off or something
I agree with this, want to be settled in my house, with a well paying job, save up then get engaged and married.
Then babies, lots of babies 
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Richie
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This is Ally btw
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Carly
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Originally posted by Matt H
I can't wait to setle down & get married
i do 
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