Robbo
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Every relationship that works will have an element of jealousy no matter how big or small, it's what lets the other person know you care.
Exactly, if you're not jealous at all its not necy sayign that its because you trust the othe rperosn compeltely because you can!
For example my ex was out one night with her frineds and a few of mine drinking (whilst we were together) and is photographed in loads of pics chattign to this one lad and slumped on sofa in pub chattign to him and havign a dance etc, I know nothing was going on and trusted her 100% but doesnt mean i wasnt a little jealous that she was with someone else at the time and not with me etc
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J da Silva
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Jealousy leads to resentment or a really embarassing episode.
I know if my gf was being chatted up, ok I probably might slag the guy off but I wouldn't go over and start ripping him to bits, last time it happened he asked her if she wanted a drink so she replied "pint of lager please", next thing she came over with a pint of Stella and said "That gent over there just bought you this". He was gutted. 
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Daimo B
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You don't need to be jealous to show you care, how lame a line is that.
You can show someone you care every single day. It doesn't cost anything either. Its called some attention, some time together, a few nice words, some "quality time" helps also.
Why though Robbo? You trusted her. If she loved you as much as you loved her, and both knew this, why feel the need to be jealous..
Shes come home to you.
Thing is, did she "tell" you about what happened, or did you find out from your/her friends from the photos?
If shes never told you, i'd be concerned. If she told you, there no need to be worried in the slightest.
PLEASE NOTE
These are my opinions, and they are gained from my experiences in life, and they work for me. They may not work for others, im just putting my reasons.
To save the PC brigade getting all horny and keyboard happy..
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Dean_W
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Originally posted by J da Silva
last time it happened he asked her if she wanted a drink so she replied "pint of lager please", next thing she came over with a pint of Stella and said "That gent over there just bought you this". He was gutted.
Quality!!!
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Lawrah
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Originally posted by VXR
WEll thats your issue, not an issue with the relationship.
Thats an issue within yourself that YOU need to sort.
Besides, if someone tried to chat up my missis while i was there, sure i'd say something. But tbh, by the time i was there, my other half would ahve already said something.
Thats trust....
I shouldn't need to beat the hell out of a guy just becuase he started talking to a girl in a pub/club. How are they meant to know they have a BF or GF??? Have you not seen boy and girls out together, having a laugh, as friends?
So, a you should be fending off the attention.
Then if they dont leave, the bloke come over, have a polite word.
Thats not jealousy, its respect and trust.
From that line alone, id say you have a jealousy issue you need to address.
wow son.
I have no Issue at all. Im not in relationship just now.
I never mentioned beating hell out of anyone? I have plenty of male friends,and when I was in a relastionship my ex was jelous sometimes..but not overly jelous.. I think there would be something wrong if my partner didnt care or have a sligh jelous streak in him at all..just my opinion, dont get your knickers in a twist.
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DC90
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If I see somebody chatting my mrs up I don't like it but I don't go over.
My ex however, I hated seeing her with blokes, not a clue why it's just the way I was, maybe because she was the same with me.
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Daimo B
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Son, you wish darling!!!!
So, you need a man to be jealous. Your single....
We don't need to be jealous. In 8 year relationship, and many more serious before that.
Jealously can lead to fighting. Your a scot, you should know this.
Not caring and being jealous are TOTALLY different things WTF you on about girl?
And im wearing boxers, i dont wear knickers.
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Robbo
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Originally posted by VXR
Why though Robbo? You trusted her. If she loved you as much as you loved her, and both knew this, why feel the need to be jealous..
Shes come home to you.
Thing is, did she "tell" you about what happened, or did you find out from your/her friends from the photos?
If shes never told you, i'd be concerned. If she told you, there no need to be worried in the slightest.
She told me, said she'd had fun chattign to one fo the guys that was there, I saw the pics also. She sknown him for years etc so I wasnt in the slightest bothered in that respect I just wished Id ahve been there with her at the time etc
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Lawrah
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Originally posted by VXR
Son, you wish darling!!!!
So, you need a man to be jealous. Your single....
We don't need to be jealous. In 8 year relationship, and many more serious before that.
Jealously can lead to fighting. Your a scot, you should know this.
Not caring and being jealous are TOTALLY different things WTF you on about girl?
And im wearing boxers, i dont wear knickers.
Sorry I dont follow any of the points your trying to make?
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Daimo B
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Aye, to keep an eye on her, which shows a slight lack of trust, even though you think you trust her, for me, just reading that line says you didn't trust her totally.
No trust = jealously.
I have complete trust and faith in my better half. We have been through a lot together. As a long term relationship grows, things happen, whcih can cause you to trust and need each other more.
Maybe its just my relationship, and its very strong, but thats why i did put the line about being MY relationship and may not work for everyone 
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Phi
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daimo stoppppp worring
but i totally agree with you, and can also see lawrah and robbos point- even though i dont completely agree
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Robbo
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Not at all, I wished I was there to spend time with her not to keep an eye on her!
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Phi
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aww your a sweetie
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Daimo B
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Originally posted by Lawrah
Sorry I dont follow any of the points your trying to make?
Well in that case I can only help feel sorry for you and your need to have your man/women feel jealous. You will never truley be really really close to someone and experience true trust as I do 
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Daimo B
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Originally posted by Robbo
Not at all, I wished I was there to spend time with her not to keep an eye on her!
But as you've said, because those blokes were there.
If no pictures arrived, no blokes were spoken to, you wouldn't have been as agitated (?sp) as you have said you are.
Im not mocking you or nowt fella, just saying what i have read
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Lawrah
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No what I dont understand is why you brought into the argument I was Scottish and Single ?
Your not understanding me..I dont WANT someone to be jelous, but it is human nature! To show a wee bit of jelousy is ok, not damaging a relstionship. I guess they are all different.
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Hammer
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Daimo you are the biggest patronising cunt i have ever had the misfortune of reading the opinions of
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by Hammer]
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Theham85
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Originally posted by Lawrah
No what I dont understand is why you brought into the argument I was Scottish and Single ?
Yeah, me too 
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Daimo B
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Scottish = Rowdy = Like a good punch up. - This is trying to provide some comedy into a post i can see people getting a humph over. Clearly it flew right over you
Single - the fact your single and i've got a long term relationship with trust.
Theres no digging here, you lot seem to be on the defense that im having a whinge saying you should do it my way.
Im not, my way works for me and my partner.
Its a discussion board.......
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by VXR]
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Robbo
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Originally posted by VXR
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Originally posted by Robbo
Not at all, I wished I was there to spend time with her not to keep an eye on her!
But as you've said, because those blokes were there.
If no pictures arrived, no blokes were spoken to, you wouldn't have been as agitated (?sp) as you have said you are.
Im not mocking you or nowt fella, just saying what i have read
No dotn worry Im not taking it the wrong way or owt but it really had nothign to do with the fellas beign there, besides which i knew most of the people out it really was just a case of thye had a great night and Id wished id been there with her rather than at home on my own as id happened to be that night for whatever reaosn
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Daimo B
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Originally posted by Hammer
Daimo you are the biggest patronising cunt i have ever had the misfortune of reading the opinions of
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by Hammer]
Good job your the other end of the UK and you dont ever need to meet me then isn't it.........
Don't read my comments then  You don't HAVE to read them you know
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Lawrah
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I dont like a good punch up, seriously narrow minded cock.
Im just single and was in a relastionship for 3 years..I dont think it means I have no clue ?
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Daimo B
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IT WAS A JOKE
fucking hell, gain a sense of humour too darlin!
Your what, 21, 22, i've got a few years on you and relationships.
Most people at this age are still working themselves out.
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Hammer
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Originally posted by VXR
quote:
Originally posted by Hammer
Daimo you are the biggest patronising cunt i have ever had the misfortune of reading the opinions of
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by Hammer]
Good job your the other end of the UK and you dont ever need to meet me then isn't it.........
Don't read my comments then You don't HAVE to read them you know
Lucky that seeing as i'm a rowdy skirt wearing Scotsman. I'd probably hit you over the head with a bottle of Irn Bru and shove a haggis up your arse.
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Lawrah
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Dont forget the scotty dog and whisky Paul.
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