chloe16v
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i never get jealous of my fella, we trust each other 100% and have no reson not to. the only time i get pissed off is when he has worked all night then his family what him to get up early to go and do something for them, most of the time the thing that this family want him to do a 5yr old could do it, but none of them know a spanner from a screwdriver  it really winds me up, then he is up all day and has to go back to work that night (driving) 
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C2RL R
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i've been in trouble before now for not being jelous enough. now thats fucked up.
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Robbo
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I think all healthy relationships should ahve a little bit of jealousy
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Lee Wilson
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Nothing like a good argument is there. 
My ex girlfriend used to try arguments but I'm just too laid back to argue back, I think this used to wind her up more
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Lawrah
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quote:
Originally posted by Robbo
I think all healthy relationships should ahve a little bit of jealousy
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Phi
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i dont - its annoying
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Lawrah
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But if you wernt jelous, there would be something wrong..like just not giving a fuck.
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Phi
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dont agree im afraid
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Brett
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Phi, are you talking about your b/f's getting jealous?
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micra_pete
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Originally posted by Lawrah
But if you wernt jelous, there would be something wrong..like just not giving a fuck.
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Daimo B
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Originally posted by Lawrah
But if you wernt jelous, there would be something wrong..like just not giving a fuck.
Total BS
ITs called trust....
My other half went away, came back, told me about xyz trying to chat her up....
Was i phased, not at all, why, because I trust her 100%.
If theres no trust, theres jealously, which means it aint going to work, until the trust is gained.
Thats from a successfull 8+ year relationship..............
Jealousy at the start nearly ruined it.
Theres taking interest, and being jealous. Jealously is a bad bad BAD thing.
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Lawrah
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Well I think I would be a wee bit pissed off if my bf had no reaction to a guy trying to chat me up.. I would want him to act in defence, show how much I mean to him.
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Robbo
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quote:
Originally posted by Lawrah
But if you wernt jelous, there would be something wrong..like just not giving a fuck.
Yep 100%!
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Robbo
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quote:
Originally posted by Lawrah
Well I think I would be a wee bit pissed off if my bf had no reaction to a guy trying to chat me up.. I would want him to act in defence, show how much I mean to him.
Again, fully agree!
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Phi
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its like difficult to have male friends when your in relationship though, so i guess you dont put yourself in sutuation for jealousy to arise.
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Daimo B
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WEll thats your issue, not an issue with the relationship.
Thats an issue within yourself that YOU need to sort.
Besides, if someone tried to chat up my missis while i was there, sure i'd say something. But tbh, by the time i was there, my other half would ahve already said something.
Thats trust....
I shouldn't need to beat the hell out of a guy just becuase he started talking to a girl in a pub/club. How are they meant to know they have a BF or GF??? Have you not seen boy and girls out together, having a laugh, as friends?
So, a you should be fending off the attention.
Then if they dont leave, the bloke come over, have a polite word.
Thats not jealousy, its respect and trust.
From that line alone, id say you have a jealousy issue you need to address.
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corsa - gus
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There has tro be a degree of jealousy, if my gf is out I trust her but I wouldn't exactly be over the moon with someone giving her the chat.
And I can assure you she would be the same if some girl gave me chat.
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Phi
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i think for exaple if donna felt awkward and wasnt interested then yeah if daimo saw her tryign to get away form some idiot then yeah he would step in, not because he is jealous, just because the male is being ignorant.
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by Corsa_phi]
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Phi
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men eh! - useless 
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by Corsa_phi
men eh! - useless
Women eh! - Attention whores
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Daimo B
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quote:
Originally posted by corsa - gus
There has tro be a degree of jealousy, if my gf is out I trust her but I wouldn't exactly be over the moon with someone giving her the chat.
And I can assure you she would be the same if some girl gave me chat.
Yeah but if your not there, how can you be jealous of something you don't knows happening?
Does that mean your gf cannot talk to other men while shes out? As a friend?
Does that mean that every bloke should know that your gf has a bf???? How are they meant to know.
Or do you wait till shes home, then she tells you about Mr X chatting her up? Are you jealous? Im a little miffed someones tried chatting up my missis, but i trust her, and i know she wouldn't do anything, so why be jealous.
If someone touched Donna, i'd beat the living hell out of them. But until that point (or a point which it got nasty), i would TRUST her indefinatly not to do anything. Why, because its that word again, trust.
Jealously really is a bad trait to have. Im jealous of Valentino Rossi. As i've found out recently, i shouldn't be jealous, i should be proud for him that he has done so well in his life.
Outlooks change as you get older. I used to be very very jealous when i was 18-24. So i've been there.
Its a bad thing. Trust me.
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micra_pete
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daimo, obviosly you and donna are fine, and others are in the same situtation.
However, everyone I personally know that has the "couldn't give a fuck, I trust completely" attitude has either cheated or been cheated on.
Its not trust, its human nature, people cheat, whether they love you or not, things happen
Did you NOT see indecent proposal last night.....
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Daimo B
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quote:
Originally posted by Corsa_phi
i think for exaple if donna felt awkward and wasnt interested then yeah if daimo saw her tryign to get away form some idiot then yeah he would step in, not because he is jealous, just because the male is being ignorant.
[Edited on 02-09-2008 by Corsa_phi]
Exactly, but she is my GF, i don't control her. If she wants to talk to someone, let her. She'll probably know them,or vice versa.
If the guy starts hitting on her, she tells him she has a bf and isn't interested. If im there, no doubt she will pull me over or make me aware she needs my help.
I trust my girlfriend. Theres no need to be jealous when we trust each other.
If you want to prove your feelings, dont be jealous when someone comes up to her. Just treat her right in the first place, so MrX doesn't even come close. Shes happy in her relationship, why look for another one if your happy?????
Problem solved.... 
See, persons problem, not relationship problem. JEalously is down to the individual having deeper problems.
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Robbo
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Personally I think you're getting the wrong end of the stick here Daimo wrt what Laura and I are thinking
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Hammer
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Every relationship that works will have an element of jealousy no matter how big or small, it's what lets the other person know you care.
Ooooh look at me go with the relationship advice
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