JadeM
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Jade, will there be a plaque in the memorial garden in the local cemetary?
That's what we did after scattering my Dad's ashes 300 miles away at the top of a mountain  
I'll get mum to check that out  Gran wanted her ashes scattered beside my grandad and her own side of the family in the local graveyard. The funeral directors have told us this cant be done - cemetries are the only places in Scotland where its illegal to scatter ashes as its sacred ground apparently 
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Matt H
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bit weird
If im being honest i also think its a bit odd. I mean what do you do next time your in this situation? Have another necklace made up?
Once they've been scattered you'll have some closure & you'll have somewhere to visit & reflect on good memories. It'll be harder to move on if your carrying her remains around your neck
It's a nice thought though, but i'd just keep it as a thought
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Kerry
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Jade I dont mean to put a dampner on your lovely lovely idea but I was always under the impression that the ashes you get arnt necesarily all of the person who was cremated. I dont know if this is the case but you might want to bear that in mind before you wear it around your neck
Having a memorial might be a nicer option or maybe have a photo in a locket instead and keep the ashes in something a bit more practical
Deffo dont think you have flipped though your feelings are perfectly normal of someone who is greaving a loved one
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bigdan
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when my dads best friend died my mam got a plaque/photo made up which was a photo of him a few verses of what you want and pressed flowers which looks great al get some photos tomorrow for you
but that sits on the fire place and its a good rememberance of him
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JadeM
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Thanks Kerry, yeah I have heard a few 'horror' stories about what happens with the remains after cremation.
Listening to what you all have to say, maybe I am being a bit irrational at the moment
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Kerry
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Have a bit more of a think about it Jade and im sure you will come up with something your happy with
Dont worry about what other people think x
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strick206
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I wouldn't do it if i was in your situation
There are a lot of problems you could face, losing it? breaking it?
I think it is a very nice idea but as said in here, i'd keep it at that
Get something you can keep in your room to remember her by
When my great grandad died, who i never met, he requested his signet ring be given to his daughter's oldest grandson
I got given that when i was 16, and i very rarely wear it for the fear of losing it, so it's kept in my room and wore on family occasions etc
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Colin
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You could always get the ashes turned into a diamond & wear that round your neck
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JadeM
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Seems I'm not alone in my wacky idea, looks like its big business according to what you find on google
http://www.everlifememorials.com/heart-pendants-s/43.htm
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Jay
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Without sounding insensitive I dont like the idea of it myself, maybe its just me but I like to just let go and keep memories, my uncle passed away just over a year ago and I remember him through his art/pictures which i'm trying to sort through and find my favourites (literally hundreds of them) to hang up in the house. Whatever you decide to do im sure you'll be happy with whatever it is and its the right thing for you.
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little_duke
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tbh i had a lock of her hair before my nan died.i also got a pic of her above my bed.my only little place to sit and think of things if im ever upset
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JadeM
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I've looked at those sites on google, it's got me thinking it all seems a bit tacky. I'll think about it over the next few days and see how I feel
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carribicbaby
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na you havnt flipped at all,i know the feeling tbh
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little_duke
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if i was you id do something like i have and have a picture with maybe some ashes in a pot or something.wouldnt you feel bad if you lost the locket somewhere ??
better to keep it somewhere in a close place where you know its safe
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You havent flipped no, but I think it could be a little strange. Like Colin said, maybe you should wear/modify etc something of hers to remember her by.
Keep ya chin up Jade x
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Hammer
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It's not strange, weird or odd. Some people mean more to a specific person than others do, if you want to carry a memento around with you and everyone else is fine with it then there's no problem whatsoever imo.
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Steve
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you can keep my penis in your pocket when i go hammer
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Hammer
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If i ever meet you, you won't have a penis to be kept when you eventually die as i'm going to bite it clean off 
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Robbo
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Each to their own Jade... if you want to do it then noone should have any problems with it
Sorry to hear about your granny 
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Daniel_Corsa
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An old necklace of hers you may have liked as a child, something that brings good memories, and wear that or have it in a jewelry box of some kind.
My GF's gran died last christmas and she took a pendant off her grans chain and put it on one of her necklaces.
Means alot to her.
One of my grand parents ashes are buried and one is scattered, I drive passed where they both are and just nice to think for a minute and remember!
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JadeM
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Last night after reading everyone's opinions I started to doubt the idea, but today, thinking about it I know if her ashes got scattered and I didn't get some for my locket I'd always wished I had
I'm going to see if mum will buy me a locket (I dont like the purpose made ones for ashes, they seem a bit tacky) and I'll take it to a jewellers and see if they can help me
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Tom
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Fair play jade, do whatever you you want, everyones different and it's no one elses concern how you want to be reminded of her.
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p20ele
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Its a nice idea, but how does everyone in your family feel about the ashes being separated?
When my mum died, my dad buggered off with her ashes so we dont know where they are or if theyve been scattered or not. I wear her rings around my neck and me and my brother had a plaque and flower holder made and put in the local cemetery, so its somewhere we can go and put flowers and spend some time there. It would have been her 47th birthday yesterday so we were both there to put flowers down
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p20ele
That Is Tragic
I was thinking it could be a tad arkward having your nan with you all the time, there are times when you / You and Colin need to be alone
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JadeM
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Elle, thats a really nice memorial
Matt, yes had thought of that, wouldn't bother me but it might be a bit off putting for Colin I could always put her in the bedside cabinet with the drawer closed when we were up to hanky panky
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