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I need advice... I've been with my girlfriend about a year and a half but over the past month I've had three folk accuse her of cheating... She broke down and admitted to kissing another lad a while ago so I thought about it and decided to forgive her as it was only a kiss. But today when I was with her she got a phonecall from a girl fuming and claiming she had got with her boyfriend... I really don't know whether to trust her or not now what would you all do?
Edit: Without "pics?" questions please.
[Edited on 18-11-2006 by Eckmcmann]
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jazzer2k3
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Take some really explicit naked photo's.... Then Bin her
[Edited on 18-11-2006 by jazzer2k3]
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CorsAsh
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yuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhh
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WATSON
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Ah not so good new mate
Have you ask'd her what the phone call was all about did she tell you its not true?
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Jules
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How do you know that the girl who told you (or the others for that matter) know first hand that she's been upto anything?
They could just be regurgitating what they heard from someone who heard it from someone else etc etc.
Unless this other girl caught them at it herself then I'd be dubious as she's probaby heard it from someone else.
You also can;t be sure of the motives of people telling you - there are some nasty pieces of shit out there who will say things behind your back for the sake of it, and very often once the seed is planted it grows and grows into something it's not and never has been - tread carefully.
What i would do is firstly keep calm, I know it's a time to fret but if - and I'll put that in bold to emphisize the point - IF anything has happened then it's done, it's in the past and stressing yourself sick won't change that - so firstly try and stay calm, secondly try and see it from not just your point of view but her's aswell, thirdly once you know what you want to say and what questions you want answered then speak to her.
Once you have spoken to her it's up to you to make a decision as to what to do next, trust her, give her another chance, split up or something else - but it's your call at the end of the day.
But for now - don't panic.
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Robin
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Pretty much mirrors what I said to him on MSN Jules.
The basic answer is THINK about it before jumping the gun.
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drax
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I say fuck it, shes probably cheating.
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Eck
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Yeh I agree with you Jules... and Rob  I honestly do wanna believe her, but the peoplewho have told me that she has cheating are close mates (and have been for years) so I'm not sure. I don't mean to brag but she is gorgeous so they may be jealous but I do not know as she admitted to have kissed another lad (not really sure if this counts as serious cheating) so I'm all over the place.
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Jules
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M8, it might not be your friends that are causing problems - they might be telling the truth - but it may be the truth that they have heard from someone else - this is my point, yes you can trust your mates, but how do they know about what your missus has been getting upto? Did they see anything or did they hear it from someone else?
How far down the line do you stop believing people?
This is why you need to do nothing yet, take your time, ask your mates for some info, speak to your missus, weight it all up - then decide what to do.
There is no law that says it has to be sorted out in 2 days.
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Eck
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quote:
Originally posted by WATSON
Ah not so good new mate
Have you ask'd her what the phone call was all about did she tell you its not true?
I haven't actually asked her about it as tbh, I don't really wanna hear if its true *sounds gay I know* But I will ask tomorrow when I gain the courage. I bet you have heard of her before mate... Vikki Scobie? 
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Eck
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quote:
Originally posted by CorsAsh
Ash, your humour is unbeatable 
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WATSON
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Yes mate i do know her
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CorsAsh
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Watson, I really hope you've not been boning Alex's missus. 
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Steve
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she sounds like shes cheating, rumours dont start for no reason.
besides you should know her well enough to know when shes lying
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X 60RSA
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Get rid, you'll prob never trust her now anyway so wont work!
Show her the door
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Corsalad87
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sounds like shes cheating
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ssj_kakarot
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yup sounds like shes a cheater, like steve said rumors dont start for no reason.
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Jambo
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Everyone says dont panic etc, when i thought my ex was cheating due to rumours etc i dismissed them as idle gossip created by bored people.
It turned out she was a slag. Broke my heart and i looked stupid for doing anything about the rumours.
Bin her now.
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Liam
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It's best to get rid, cause if she has cheated and she is lying, it will hurt more if she strings it along. Get out while its easier 
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J da Silva
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I'd go see the girl who rung your gf up, have a chat and weigh up what's been said.
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K5-KYL
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might not be the thing you want to hear mate, but at the end of the day she has kissed someone. shes admitted that. but whats to stop her going all the way after kissing them?
BUT on the other hand listen to what Jules said. hes got it all in a nutshell.
youve just gotta get to the root of this, see where it all started from.
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antscorsa
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once a cheat always a cheat so ive found out.
if shes done it before then to be honest the trust is gone, for me id of left her then. never the same after
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Steve
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even if she had a vtec implant?
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Matt H
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quote:
Originally posted by Jambo
Everyone says dont panic etc, when i thought my ex was cheating due to rumours etc i dismissed them as idle gossip created by bored people.
It turned out she was a slag. Broke my heart and i looked stupid for doing anything about the rumours.
Bin her now.
Exact same thing happened to me
Get rid
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