Carl
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 My best mate is loved up and has ditched everything and everyone basically. He's even booked a holiday with her in the summer to ibiza. He knows i'm going with my girlfriend too but he hasn't even told me, i only know through another mate who goes out with my best mates bird's sister.
the thing is he did the same thing about 4 years ago, and always had a problem with women since. I'm happy that he has found someone but can't believe he is making the same mistake again. 
I can't see how i can get through to him, he knows that we are all abit pissed off with him but that is kind of driving him away and making the situation worse.
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gianluigi
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thats life unfortunatly
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Rileysport
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What you do is get his missus to suck you off, take pictures then have him accidentally find them 
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stubbsy05
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Tell me about it
3 of my mates are really loved up and have been for a while.
They no longer come out and when I speak to them they are skint as they are either saving for;
Joint Mortgage, holiday with their mrs, or are just too tight to come out as all they do now is see their bird
I have been with my bird for over a year, but still see the lads 3/4 times a week and play football twice a week.
[Edited on 11-04-2006 by Alex.S]
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SXi_Tim
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Theres nothing you can do really, if hes in love with her then shes all hes going to see, its a bastard, happened with a few of may mates (including me)
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Ojc
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quote:
Originally posted by Carl
My best mate is loved up and has ditched everything and everyone basically. He's even booked a holiday with her in the summer to ibiza. He knows i'm going with my girlfriend too but he hasn't even told me, i only know through another mate who goes out with my best mates bird's sister.
the thing is he did the same thing about 4 years ago, and always had a problem with women since. I'm happy that he has found someone but can't believe he is making the same mistake again.
I can't see how i can get through to him, he knows that we are all abit pissed off with him but that is kind of driving him away and making the situation worse.
Oh my gosh  Yes I certainly do know this person
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Edd
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so what we all do it really
ask yourself this are you willing to suck his cock just so he will hang about with you?
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Carl
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Another thing is they will come out on a lads night every so often, (one planned for Sunday) but i can guarentee they will all fuck off home with their birds at some point in the night. Not sure if i'm going to go out on Sunday for this very reason. Ended up just me and a mate out of 8 last time i went out locally.
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Carl
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quote:
Originally posted by Edd
so what we all do it really
ask yourself this are you willing to suck his cock just so he will hang about with you?
we don't all do it, two of us both have long term girlfriends and still make an effort to come out, or fuck off home early to get sucked off.
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stubbsy05
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Originally posted by Carl
Another thing is they will come out on a lads night every so often, (one planned for Sunday) but i can guarentee they will all fuck off home with their birds at some point in the night. Not sure if i'm going to go out on Sunday for this very reason. Ended up just me and a mate out of 8 last time i went out locally.
My mates are exactly like this
We young lads who should be out there having a lauugh. Not boring old farts who'd prefer to be curled up watching crap on tele. One of my mates told me he finds clubbing with the lads boring the other day, muppet!
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Edd
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you have never bombed out your mates for a bird??
you must really be loyal to your friends then
the way i see it is if you are really his mate you would understand that he has a GF now and let him get on with it
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Brett
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I am guilty of this. Many times
I never really learn tho 
I'm gonna go text my mates now and apologise for all the times i've let them down 
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Edd
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quote:
Originally posted by Alex.S
We young lads who should be out there having a lauugh. Not boring old farts who'd prefer to be curled up watching crap on tele. One of my mates told me he finds clubbing with the lads boring the other day, muppet!
no, you young lads should be individual and do what you like not falling into the stereotype of young british men
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Carl
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quote:
Originally posted by Edd
you have never bombed out your mates for a bird??
you must really be loyal to your friends then
the way i see it is if you are really his mate you would understand that he has a GF now and let him get on with it
he's more than getting on with it, he's fully intense, too much for his own good. Its all going to go wrong. You have to get a balance or you will get bored in the long run imo, not matter how good you get along. Thats why you shouldn't fuck your mates off.
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by Carl
You have to get a balance or you will get bored in the long run imo, not matter how good you get along. Thats why you shouldn't fuck your mates off.
Totally true.
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Edd
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you sound like his mother not his friend
well done for caring so much but he will learn you need to be there for him when he does
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linz
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quote:
Originally posted by Carl
he's more than getting on with it, he's fully intense, too much for his own good. Its all going to go wrong. You have to get a balance or you will get bored in the long run imo, not matter how good you get along. Thats why you shouldn't fuck your mates off.
Yes fuck u off then come running back to you for a shoulder to cry on when you havent seen them forever
[Edited on 11-04-2006 by linz]
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Kathryn W
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There's a lad that i know who is a complete nob most of the time, think he is getting banned tomorrow for dangerous driving! But when he passed his test he always wanted to go out and have a mess about and always used to moan when some of the other lads actually stayed in with their girlfriends instead.
Lately he has got another girlfriend and the lad that moaned at everyone else is hardly ever out because he is with his missus, he's a complete nob!
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Carl
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quote:
Originally posted by Edd
you sound like his mother not his friend
well done for caring so much but he will learn you need to be there for him when he does
he's done it before years ago. He also also seen a friend do the exact same thing but at different times to him. Thats the point.
It;s more like 2 years Linz.
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mwg
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My brother is exactly the same with his gf... she rules his life. He hardly talks to me, my Mum or my Dad. Hes never at home apart from to have a shower and sometimes has his tea then goes down to her house everynight.
Only comes to us when he wants his car fixing or something like that.
I dont really talk to him anymore
You are right about getting the balance of spending time with friends and spending time with girlfriend. So far I haven't found a lass that is willing to be like that. They either want to see you all the time or they dont give you enough time
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stubbsy05
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quote:
Originally posted by loafofbrett
quote:
Originally posted by Carl
You have to get a balance or you will get bored in the long run imo, not matter how good you get along. Thats why you shouldn't fuck your mates off.
Totally true.
Bang on!
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schoey
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im a bit worried im gonna end up doing this. Im spending every minute of my time with my gf. Used to be round my mates pad, every evening, but now i prob go once a week or something. Half the problem was that i fell out with one of my mates in the same group. Just dont wanna fall out with my mates, but wanna be with my gf all the time.
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ssj_kakarot
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people proprities change, deal with it lol.
nd most people are very intense at the start of a relationship but friends come back on the scence when they have been with there partner a few months and everything calms down.
and a lot of people would prefer to stay in with there chicks than go out on the piss over the town and probs end up getting into a fight with some scummy twat, and waste a hell of a lot of money.
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schoey
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very very true!
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Brett
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At the end of the day. A lads night out isn't the same if you're not on the pull, so it just has less appeal.
I think that's why i've been guilty of the above in the past.
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