Graham
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 this is getting funny now but here goes
basically i found out from a friend last night that my ex's new lad is doing coke.
as far as im aware she doesnt know because she's so anti-drug.
now i really want to tell her but also my friend has said "you cant say anything"
would you say anything? 
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CCA
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no
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Ally
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Nope
1.ex
2.new boyfriend
3.none of your business
4.move on
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Matt H
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No
A lot of people these days do drugs, she might see it as nit picking
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Graham
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quote:
Originally posted by Ally
Nope
1.ex
2.new boyfriend
3.none of your business
4.move on
although she is an ex, we're best friends, always looked out for each other etc
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CorsAsh
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post a little bag of caster sugar through his front door when she's staying over, could make her ask what it was and he might crack.
No pun intended by use of word "crack". 
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MikeD
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she will learn from her own mistakes
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CCA
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she might think your stirring things if he denies it
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gianluigi
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IMVHO, No.
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GREG 1
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Let her get on with it, her loss loosing you and goes to show she moved onto worse things 
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Ally
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quote:
Originally posted by Graham
quote:
Originally posted by Ally
Nope
1.ex
2.new boyfriend
3.none of your business
4.move on
although she is an ex, we're best friends, always looked out for each other etc
Ok then ask yourself this
Do you want to A. Tell her, upset her, cause disputes between her and her new boyfriend
or
B.Not tell her, cause no disputes but create potential for an arguement later down the line when she eventually finds out that you knew and wants to know why you didnt tell her
Upto you, only you know the situation well enough to know what to do
If it were me id back the fuck away and cut off all contact. Ex's arent worth shit, friends or not, if never works. You either go back for comfort sex/cuddles or end up in situations like the one you are in now
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3CorsaMeal
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an ex became a coke-head while i was with her and thought i wouldn't notice
she was asking my best mate to get it for me but told him not to let me know 
that was why she became an ex  shame
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Carl
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i'd lead her to a way that she will find out herself
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gianluigi
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quote:
Originally posted by Graham
quote:
Originally posted by Ally
Nope
1.ex
2.new boyfriend
3.none of your business
4.move on
although she is an ex, we're best friends, always looked out for each other etc
OK, in my new honest opinion, tell her. Friends are there to look out for eachother.
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Lawrah
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quote:
Originally posted by Ally
quote:
Originally posted by Graham
quote:
Originally posted by Ally
Nope
1.ex
2.new boyfriend
3.none of your business
4.move on
although she is an ex, we're best friends, always looked out for each other etc
Ok then ask yourself this
Do you want to A. Tell her, upset her, cause disputes between her and her new boyfriend
or
B.Not tell her, cause no disputes but create potential for an arguement later down the line when she eventually finds out that you knew and wants to know why you didnt tell her
Upto you, only you know the situation well enough to know what to do
If it were me id back the fuck away and cut off all contact. Ex's arent worth shit, friends or not, if never works. You either go back for comfort sex/cuddles or end up in situations like the one you are in now
here here!!
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willay
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i'm going to go against everyone and say tell her, then come back to offday and report what happened next
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Brett
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None of your fuckin business what he does realy is it?
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Cosmo
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quote:
Originally posted by Carl
i'd lead her to a way that she will find out herself
yup, would do the same! Work it into a situation where she can find out on her own, saves you looking like the jealous ex trying to cause shit between them, especially after you told her how you still felt.
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ruth
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dont say nothing let her find out her self.
Trust ex's cant be friends things get in way shame i found out 2 late lol
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3CorsaMeal
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tell her by accident of course
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
an ex became a coke-head while i was with her
This really bothered you 
Soo wouldn't bother me, in fact i'd imagine it'd be quite fun snortin her stash off her tits 
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Carl
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Originally posted by loafofbrett
None of your fuckin business what he does realy is it?
its good to have the point of view of the ex's bloke. 
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3CorsaMeal
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quote:
Originally posted by loafofbrett
quote:
Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
an ex became a coke-head while i was with her
This really bothered you
Soo wouldn't bother me, in fact i'd imagine it'd be quite fun snortin her stash off her tits
it wasn't so much the fact she did coke, i have done it in the past, but she changed, became bitchy, thought she was "it", it was more a case of the final straw for both of us. Also the lying etc
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Graham
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quote:
Originally posted by willay
i'm going to go against everyone and say tell her, then come back to offday and report what happened next
i told her, but had said "im not sure if you know already but im looking out for you"
and she said she knew, i was like "you were always really against drugs yet your with a coke head now?"
she said we'll talk about it later but its getting to me seeing a best friend getting involved with a guy whos a fucking coke head.
oh well hope his septum falls out soon
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Brett
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quote:
Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
quote:
Originally posted by loafofbrett
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Originally posted by 3CorsaMeal
an ex became a coke-head while i was with her
This really bothered you
Soo wouldn't bother me, in fact i'd imagine it'd be quite fun snortin her stash off her tits
it wasn't so much the fact she did coke, i have done it in the past, but she changed, became bitchy, thought she was "it", it was more a case of the final straw for both of us. Also the lying etc
ace. you should of just cheated on her and used her for some free gear
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