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There's a girl I know we are really good friends, she is seeing someone (so she tells me) for the past 4 weeks, we do a lot of stuff together me and her you know usual mate things going drinking, cinema, blah blah etc. anyway she phones me up at 1am this morning, she's out on the piss with her mates, phones me to say "I know I'm really drunk but I really want to be with you and not them right now.."
So anyways I go pick her up and bring her back to my house  we sit watching TV talking and shit till about 3.45am, she's getting quite close if you get me, I say to her does she wanna sleep on the couch or in my bed and I'll sleep on the couch, she's like "is it alright if I sleep next to you in bed?" I'm like OK.
Nothing happened like  , but she was like virtually stuck on me in bed all night, I'm thinking if she's going out with some bloke doesn't she wanna be with him instead? 
I drove her home this morning and she said text me and we can do something later after shower/sleep etc.
I ain't very good at reading signals from birds, what do you lot think? We haven't even snogged or anything just kinda cuddled each other a lot last night...
I like her as a mate, maybe more I'm not sure, if I'm honest I'm not really over my ex and so haven't bothered with birds since then... 
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jmacd
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girls are too compliated let her make the move otherwise it will probs be the wrong thing to do maybe its time to get over your ex and move on I know thats easier said thasn done.
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fiestakidda
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Just see what happens mate, if nothing happens ur still mates and you've not lost anything.
Sounds to me she might want more but she might just be as confused as you are. If it happens it happens if not ur still mates.
How i'd play it
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should have made a move last night
missed your chance now
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Sam
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I know I have to move on but I'm finding it very difficult. We split like nearly 2 years ago as well FFS!
I was talking to this girl once about relationships and stuff and her relationship and whatever, she was feeling low about herself I said to her "if I wasn't so fucked up I'd ask you out myself you're a great girl" she was like "to be honest I wouldn't want you to ask me out. I think we just both need a friend right now..."
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I bought myself a new camera phone yesterday, hoping to take some boobie pics when she next wears a low cut top...
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dont forget dot to dot and paint by numbers
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SetH
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Dood you did the right thing last night, you were there for here as a friend.
like jmacd said, let her make the moves. Im guessing you cant be doing with chasing/making any effort etc whilst you are getting over your ex. So just carry on being cool and see what happens.
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Sam
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Cheers for your advice thus far people.
I hate these sort of situations. I think I will just leave it and let her make the moves etc. Don't want to jeopordise our friendship just so I can get my leg over!
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jmacd
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i was best mates with my gf for ages. Lukily for me when i made a move it worked
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play it cool
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Originally posted by SetH
Dood you did the right thing last night, you were there for here as a friend.
like jmacd said, let her make the moves. Im guessing you cant be doing with chasing/making any effort etc whilst you are getting over your ex. So just carry on being cool and see what happens.
nothing else needs to be said just do this ^^
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dont make a move when shes drunnk etc, wait for it she sounds cool and she must like u so just bide ur time, u could always amybe suggest u like another girla dn see wot her reaction is. playing it dangerous tho
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I know if that was me i'd of banged her
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Sam
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She knows there isn't anyone that I'm interested in.
She's a bit shy/private about things so it's hard to gauge what's going on at times... Hmmm... Where's The Hoff when you need him? He'd know what to do!
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quote:
Originally posted by jmacd
girls are too compliated let her make the move otherwise it will probs be the wrong thing to do maybe its time to get over your ex and move on I know thats easier said thasn done.
agree totally with what he said there.
spot on advice for u sam
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Originally posted by SetH
Dood you did the right thing last night, you were there for here as a friend.
like jmacd said, let her make the moves. Im guessing you cant be doing with chasing/making any effort etc whilst you are getting over your ex. So just carry on being cool and see what happens.
spot on advice
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fair play for not trying to shag her mate
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Charlene
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Good advice SetH, id listen to his advice
Although there is some gentlemen around and dont just want them into bed 
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Sam
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OK bit of an update...
We met up earlier well she came round here then we went out for dinner etc. Been talking to her about how things were going with this bloke she's seeing, she says he's really keen on her but she isn't 'that' keen on him... Well she is but she says she's worried about things going wrong etc.
Apparently they are going away together for this bank holiday weekend...
She seems very confused about what she wants... On one hand says things are OK then she says isn't sure, is worried, things are going OK she supposes... Women are bloody confusing!
To be honest I would honestly be happy for her if things between this bloke and her worked out alright in the end, I just don't get the confusing signals, makes me most of the time!
Anyways I'm just gonna leave it and see what happens.
I wish I was seeing someone...
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jmacd
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all you can do because trying to speed thing up will only push her away
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Sam
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That's true mate.
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