Antz
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Work for Leeds Learning Network, they provide internet for schools and libraries.
I talk to a girl on MSN who I've met outside of work (friend of a friend), we're just friends like... she is 17, I'm 19, so no issue about age (even for friends)... she is in the 6th form at one of the schools we provide for...
Today I was told that I should no longer communicate with her...
What do you guys think?
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Sam
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Reason?
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Matt H
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Pics?
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Sam
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quote:
Originally posted by Matt H
Pics?
Vids? 
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Antz
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Reason is cos of all the things that have been in the news about teachers and student relationships, in the worse case, students crying rape.
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Shelly
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Well I didnt stop talking to my brother when he came to the college I worked at
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Matt H
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Im sure its not allowed
Check your contract of employment
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Antz
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Also, no pics/no plans to get any... sorry.
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Antz
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quote:
Originally posted by Matt H
Im sure its not allowed
Check your contract of employment
It's not allowed... it also says in my contract I should have no relationship what so ever (friendships or other) with any customer of the business... this rules out the whole of Leeds, as I work for Leeds City Council!
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Shelly
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I think it applys more to older members of staff
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Rebrabuk
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Carry on seeing/meeting her.
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Ian
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Its actually illegal in some cases, look up Sexual Offences Bill, if the student is under 18 and in full time education, and your relationship to her could be construed as either a position of trust or authority, probably the latter in your case.
Even if it doesn't fall outside the law, the bill also advises that relationships like this are 'a matter of professional discipline', so basically you shouldn't bother disputing it as they do have legal support as such, ie. you couldn't say its an infringement of Human Rights Act (which technically, it is under article 8).
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Danny P
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quote:
Originally posted by Antz
quote:
Originally posted by Matt H
Im sure its not allowed
Check your contract of employment
It's not allowed... it also says in my contract I should have no relationship what so ever (friendships or other) with any customer of the business... this rules out the whole of Leeds, as I work for Leeds City Council!
Shit, i get paid by Leeds City Council - hope this dont apply to me
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Ian
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Originally posted by Shelly
I think it applys more to older members of staff
Wrong - the pupils age is considered in law, the staff members is not. Doesn't matter if you're only two years older, she is still under 18.
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Shelly
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but your still allowed to have a friendship with someone aren't you? especially if you knew them before they came to where you work
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Matt H
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quote:
Originally posted by Shelly
I think it applys more to older members of staff
Doubt it
They will have to be very strict about stuff like this
Imagine if Ant & this chick formed a relationship & then someone who is 1 year older than Ant decided they also wanted a relationship with a student. They might also allow this, but then where do they draw the line? And what happened if someone spat the dummy out one day & decided that they would report them because they aren't allowed a relationship & other are
I can see why they don't allow it
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Ian
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Friendship - yes.
Usurping the law because you knew them outside of work - no.
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Matt H
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Ian, can you remember my fat mate asking you if you got to nail all the pretty college chicks you were teaching? 
He is so dumb its unreal
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Shelly
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well i had friends who came to college when i worked there, i didnt stop being friends with them because of it.
fair enough about a sexual relationship, because ure just setting ureself up for some hassle.
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Fraser Young
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When i was at school (17) I was seeing a lassie who was a primary teacher at a school 10 mile odd away and she still got a warning from her head teacher or whatever about seeing me etc...
Was ghey.
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Ian
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I normally just say yes because quoting all the laws which you need to be familiar with isn't as funny or cool.
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Matt H
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quote:
Originally posted by Ian
I normally just say yes because quoting all the laws which you need to be familiar with isn't as funny or cool.
So does that make paedophiles cool? 
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CorsAsh
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Originally posted by Matt H
Ian, can you remember my fat mate asking you if you got to nail all the pretty college chicks you were teaching?
He is so dumb its unreal
That's no way to talk about Willay 
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Shelly
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its the staff in colleges u need to watch...
i was always getting told i'd get it in the stationery cupboard
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Shelly
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have u noticed that you always get a couple of teachers in a school which everyone fancies
i bet ians one of them at his
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