waynep
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Registered: 20th Apr 02
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If you seriously dont care then please do not respond. a friend close to our family passed away in his sleep last night. its very sad and even tho i hardly knew him he watched me grow up as a child and he helped look after me a lot. im finding it a bit hard to believe that this has happened.
how have you coped in the past?
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Rob B
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Registered: 8th Jan 04
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The only thing you can do is try and deal with it the best u can, when my mum died i tried to get on with my life the best i could even though i had to move away from all my friends and start a new life somewhere else. cause my mum and dad were all ready divorced
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CraigyG
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Registered: 20th Oct 02
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A friend of mine was killed in a car crash about 3months ago i just kept saying to myself it wasnt real and he'll will come back. But it hit me hard when i went to the funeral. Few months on now and i still can't get it into my head that he's not here nomore but i try & not think about it TBH 
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RCoughtrie
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Registered: 31st Oct 04
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time fixes it out....... feels differnet when u dont see their face anymore, what got me was past memorys of the person..... but as time went on it became a part of the past rather than the presant
Life goes on..... dont let death play on your mind, it wont do any good.... as each day goes by u will think less of the person but u wont ever forget them 
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Karen
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Registered: 9th Jul 03
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When my dad died 3 years ago it was like it wasnt real. I went round in a daze for weeks not knowing what to do. I think about him everyday and theres always times something happens and I want to tell him but then it hits me I cant
I dont know how Iv coped tbh, just got on with things
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Colin
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Registered: 4th Apr 02
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Death is part of life & you have to learn deal with it! My best mate was killed when I was 7 years old from serious head injouries when he was hit by a car I learned from that theres no point sitting crying over it - lifes too short & 1 day it will be your turn! Try thinking of the good times you had with that person instead of thinking about there death! Sometimes its for the best aswell ive seen family members dieing from cancer in the final stage pumped full of morphine & god knows what else – they don’t even know who you are or what day it is – its not a pretty sight or something anyone should have to go through....what im saying is id rather see someone put to rest than in pain! IMO Dieing in your sleep is the best way to go & guess it was just there time
Sorry for your loss tho it can be tough sometimes!!!
[Edited on 26-03-2005 by Colin]
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Charlene
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Registered: 29th Sep 04
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Best way to try and get on with the rest of your life, thats what they would have wanted you to do and not mope about after them ,although it is hard if they were close, last year i lost my aunty and nanna within 6months of each other but you just have to cope
Yesterday 2 lads from Darlington jumped infront of a train, they were only in year 10 so about 14years old, although they jumped, it wil still be a bad time for their family and friend
Although everyone has to die
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Doug
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quote:
Originally posted by Colin
ive seen family members dieing from cancer in the final stage pumped full of morphine & god knows what else – they don’t even know who you are or what day it is – its not a pretty sight or something anyone should have to go through....what im saying is id rather see someone put to rest than in pain! IMO Dieing in your sleep is the best way to go & guess it was just there time
[Edited on 26-03-2005 by Colin]
Can i just say that this is the best thing i have ever seen you post. I have been through the exact same thing these last few days.
My mother passed away wednesday morning beacuse of cancer. She was on a morphine drip at home. She basicly just went into a deep deep sleep and then her breathing got shollower and shallower untill it stopped. No gasping nothing. Very peacefull.
The days leading up to her death she was screaming in pain and there was fuck all i could do apart from keep giving her her medication at the set times which was barely touching the pain.
I have been in USA for a couple weeks now as soon as i heard she only had a matter of weeks left i came over.
It has been the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with. Her funeral was yersterday and i dont think it has hit me yet. I am not looking forward to the whole thing hitting me. I have just been so busy since i got her that i have barely had time to think about it.
Sorry for the essay but it helps to get it off your chest!
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Jonny P
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Registered: 11th Dec 04
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quote:
Originally posted by RCoughtrie
time fixes it out....... feels differnet when u dont see their face anymore, what got me was past memorys of the person..... but as time went on it became a part of the past rather than the presant
Life goes on..... dont let death play on your mind, it wont do any good.... as each day goes by u will think less of the person but u wont ever forget them
completely agree in the last bit mate...
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Colin
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quote:
Originally posted by Doug Corsa
quote:
Originally posted by Colin
ive seen family members dieing from cancer in the final stage pumped full of morphine & god knows what else – they don’t even know who you are or what day it is – its not a pretty sight or something anyone should have to go through....what im saying is id rather see someone put to rest than in pain! IMO Dieing in your sleep is the best way to go & guess it was just there time
[Edited on 26-03-2005 by Colin]
Can i just say that this is the best thing i have ever seen you post. I have been through the exact same thing these last few days.
My mother passed away wednesday morning beacuse of cancer. She was on a morphine drip at home. She basicly just went into a deep deep sleep and then her breathing got shollower and shallower untill it stopped. No gasping nothing. Very peacefull.
The days leading up to her death she was screaming in pain and there was fuck all i could do apart from keep giving her her medication at the set times which was barely touching the pain.
I have been in USA for a couple weeks now as soon as i heard she only had a matter of weeks left i came over.
It has been the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with. Her funeral was yersterday and i dont think it has hit me yet. I am not looking forward to the whole thing hitting me. I have just been so busy since i got her that i have barely had time to think about it.
Sorry for the essay but it helps to get it off your chest!
Chin up lad put on a brave face & remember the good times - theres nothing more you can do!!!
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