sperminator
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right been c'ing my bird for 2 years, and we've been arguing a canny bit and she says she needs to think whats best for her coz she doesnt want to get upset all the time, but i was at hers yesterday and she was crying her eyes out saying how much she loves me etc ..... but needs to think thigs ova !!!
What should i do??? keep trying or just dnt let her walk ova me and take control???
cheers ppl
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CORSA NUT
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It's over mate..take it on the chin make sure she is happy and go out and get pissed with your mates.
Sorry to say it but i've been through that much shit with women that most of the time when you think it's over it is.
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CorsaHayley
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personally i wouldnt let anyone walk over me!!!! but do what u thinks best chick! 
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Fad
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kinda been in the same boat mate its pretty gutting aint it?
just take some time out and let her come to her own conclusions and in the same time you decide if u can put up with her constantly having you on a pedalstal cos that aint on.
maybe the time apart may make u realise how much u need or dont need each other.
Some one told me something that made me realise what i wanted when in doubt. If the good time outweigh the bad when your with some one surely its worth keeping?
just let her decide what she wants cos if u start taking control she may make some rash decisions.
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sperminator
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yep she still aint made her mind up! and im sick as a chip
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Corsa E-Tec
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find out what is really upsetting her and then tell her how you feel and then meet each other in the middle.
thats what me and my other half have just had a talk about, wer've been together 2 years too and she was crying aswell. but know is all schweet
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Ian
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Do you want to be with her?
I usually advise people to finish - there's no sense being in a relationship that you have doubts over. My rule of thumb is that its difficult to know if someone is right for you - however its very easy to know if they're wrong. Harsh, but any doubts she is having may have some real justification.
If she's undecided and keeps changing her mind, find out what time of day is her most objective. Some people find it is just before they go to sleep and some in the middle of a working day. At that time of day write a quick note or have a think about what you want to do - either stop or keep trying. At the end of the week, see what you wrote most of.
The hardest thing about ending a relationship is knowing its the right thing, especially if there are so many unknowns. You know with the diary approach that you feel like this when you've a clear head and are not crying, lonely etc. and trusting your own sensible decisions is often enough to clear up any doubt in clouded thought.
[Edited on 26-04-2004 by Ian]
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langey
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like corsa nut said, its over mate,
jiust get all your stuff back off her 
then go out this weekend and get lashed and start making up all the 2years of shaggin other biords u missed out on 
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DanielJ
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kinda like the situation im in
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penfold82
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Does sound like its over mate. Sorry to say. My nana once told me the good old sayin........
If you love someone, set them free. And if they come back, theyre truely yours.
Or somethin similar.
This thinkin has worked for me a few times. And if i was in your situation i'd tell her its ok if she wants to end it, and you hope she'll be happy. Act as mature as you can possibly be.
In my experience women always trot away from you, all the time looking over their shoulder to make sure your still following. Once you give up and walk away they soon come running. Now i swear by this method. Because if a girl still likes you she will suddenly chase you. If she doesnt, then you know for sure she doesnt want you. Either way, at least you know whats going on in her head. 90% of the time a girl falls for who her friends say she should fall for, not who they want to.
Apologies to any girls out there, but this is what my experience has taught me.
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Colin
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quote:
Originally posted by DanielJ
kinda like the situation im in
Pffft Dan, ive already told ya son, put there back legs in your wellies - then they cant run away from you
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fran_lupo
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sometimes a break does make things better, but most of the time it usually ends
everything happens for a reason so just see what happens
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sassyminx
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its a shame really, but there must be a problem sumwhere, try giving her space to think, and see if its wot she needs? i was really unhappy with my fiance and i went away for a few days, and didnt miss him at all, was not thinkin abt him or anything and i knew then it was over, sumtimes tho being apart makes u stronger as a couple cos she mite just realise how much she really likes u and wants to be with u
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vibrio
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quote:
Originally posted by sperminator
right been c'ing my bird for 2 years, and we've been arguing a canny bit and she says she needs to think whats best for her coz she doesnt want to get upset all the time, but i was at hers yesterday and she was crying her eyes out saying how much she loves me etc ..... but needs to think thigs ova !!!
What should i do??? keep trying or just dnt let her walk ova me and take control???
cheers ppl
why don;t you make your own mind up. your the one that has been with her for 2 years. you make the choice it's yor relationship. no one else can really help
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DanielJ
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quote:
Originally posted by Colin J
quote:
Originally posted by DanielJ
kinda like the situation im in
Pffft Dan, ive already told ya son, put there back legs in your wellies - then they cant run away from you
i need stronger velcro gloves aswell m8
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