Kellye
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Lou  u ok? xx
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loubielou
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will i haev to sit under your desk with my feet on your chair? 
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andy1868
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willay, how do you get yourself into all these situations?
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loubielou
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same old rubbish kelly, nothing new really you?
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willay
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quote:
Originally posted by andy1868
willay, how do you get yourself into all these situations?
just my luck
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andy1868
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and tbh, should you be seeing all these people if you may have veneral or HIV?
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loubielou
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bad bad aids down on the farm
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Kellye
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Ahh yeh am k thanks
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willay
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quote:
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and tbh, should you be seeing all these people if you may have veneral or HIV?
Good HIV FYI
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Fro
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Originally posted by loubielou
will i haev to sit under your desk with my feet on your chair?
sounds like an interesting position I'll buy a heater out of the company catalogue 
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andy1868
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alright, DMY, jeez
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JonnyJ
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*sigh* Got a boring day driving supercars up elvington today 
Whats everyone else up to? 
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loubielou
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ok sounds goood but not as fun 
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willay
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I'm having a few problems with the end of a relationship. It was a mutual breakup (although maybe a little more from my side than hers) a month or so ago.
She suffers various psychological problems and I've been helping her deal with them as best I can for the last couple of years, but unfortunately a recent bout of reckless behaviour was too much for me to take. I don't know if that makes me a bad person or not. So I discussed with her the idea of taking some time, I figured probably a lot of time, away from each other, and we agreed it might be for the best. She moved back in with her mother.
It was hard at first, but was then made harder after I heard from one of her friends that, in just two weeks, she'd met and moved in with a random guy from the internet. Real stable huh?
The problem now is not knowing what to do/think. Part of me is thinking "whew, now some other sap has to deal with her", but mostly it's pretty upsetting. I still love her - the relationship was surprisingly good but for the insanity , and I am worried about her. She always used to forget her medication if I wasn't there, stopped going to therapy sessions (part of the recklessness I mentioned) and can be very unstable.
I know I'm not her carer and she'll do what she wants, but it doesn't sound like she's stable at all and could use help. She doesn't really have family apart from her mother. I must have checked her Myspace 100 times in the last two weeks, hoping for a sign she's all right, all that's there is a bunch of gibberish, and now I'm beginning to obsess.
This is getting a bit waffly, so basically - does anyone have any experience/advice for dealing with mentally ill ex's? I'm caught in two minds whether to sever completely, suck it up and let someone else deal with her, or make a real effort to get in touch with her and see what the hell is going on. The 90% of the time she's well she's wonderful
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loubielou
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 william you arse stop it
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Fro
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Tommy L
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bye guys, speak in a few days 
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willay
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where you going tom
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pow
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Eh? Tom?
And Will enough please, I am at a school, I do not what these lewd stories on my screen
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lil_g
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Hello again.
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loubielou
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whats up gregg?
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Fro
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It'll be cool gregg cheer up
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willay
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quote:
Originally posted by pow
Eh? Tom?
And Will enough please, I am at a school, I do not what these lewd stories on my screen
dont surf the internet then whinger
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loubielou
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bye tom
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willay
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We're both 23, and we've been dating for about 5 years now. A few months ago she basically told me that her life goals include getting married and having children (not necessarily to me, but eventually). I told her yesterday that having children, getting married, or even moving in with a significant other is not in my short-term or long-term scope. I told her I know that I'll probably change my mind about getting married eventually, but that I feel very strongly about not having children. We spoke last night, and she hasn't called me all today. I guess I'll call her tomorrow and see if we can talk about it.
I suppose she has a right to want what she wants, but I feel like it's irregular to be thinking about getting married and starting a family at age 23. She told me basically that she doesn't want to waste any more time with me if I don't want to marry her or eventually start a family. I'm happy with our relationship right now, but I felt it was important to tell her what I told her so she doesn't resent me for "wasting her time".
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